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Cake day: June 19th, 2023

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  • Depends on what you need:

    • As cheap as possible, but actually want a VM: OCI free tier will be way bigger than you will probably need
    • Happy paying money but still want to learn about Linux things: I’ve had good experiences with Scaleway
    • I just want something I can set up and not think about: don’t use a VPS. Architect your site as a pure-static site, stick it in an S3 bucket. You’ll probably be within the free tier unless you do absolutely bonkers traffic, and once it’s running you can leave it alone for literal years without worrying about patches or upgrades










  • For anything that is related to my backup scheme, it’s printed out hard copy, put in an envelope in a fire safe in my house. I can tell you from experience there is nothing more stressful than “oh fuck I need my backups but the key to unlock the backups is in the backups fuck fuck fuck”.

    And for future reference, anyone thinking about breaking into my house to get access to my backups just DM me, I’m sure we can come to an arrangement that’s less hassle for both of us




  • I think there are few overlapping things here that are probably worth pulling apart. Keep in mind that all of these are spectrums, some people might experience these acutely, others mildly, others not at all.

    • Gender non-comformance: having a preference for activities that are typically ascribed to or preferring to appear as the gender opposite to the one you present as - men who like wearing dresses and sewing, women who prefer having short cropped hair and playing rugby
    • Transgender - a feeling that your sex (your biology) does not match up with your gender (do you consider yourself to be a man or a woman?). Gender is a really complex thing and is pretty strongly informed by society - what were you taught “man” and “woman” means beyond just sex. For some people this disconnect can be dysphoric, and it quite often overlaps with gender non-comformance
    • Transition - changing your gender presentation to be different from your sex. This can be small things - changing your hair style - to large changes such as getting legal recognition for a new name and gender identity or seeking medical interventions.

    I guess my point is that there are plenty of people who engage in small non-conformances or who feel like their experience of being man doesn’t 100% line up with how society perceives men, and that’s valid, and is a trans experience, but doesn’t mean that they do or should feel like “trans” is a label or identity that applies to them. In the same way that you can understand that you are a little bit bi, without that being a significant part of your identity