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Cake day: June 12th, 2023

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  • Is your condition stable, slowly worsening, or critical?

    Before you do anything, talk to your doctor. They might be able to recommend a specialist in-state or closer than NY. They may even be able to work with a doctor in another hospital. If you want to go to NY, talk to the hospital directly (not through your cousin) and buy the ticket as close as possible. Unless your condition is severe and worsening, they may not be able to take you in immediately. Look at the hospital online and see if they have telemedicine services. You might be able to make an appointment through that.

    Lastly, for the incoming medical bills my advice is this:

    • See if you qualify for financial aid through the hospital.
    • Get an itemized bill and ask if there’s anything that can be reduced.
    • Get the lowest payment plan that you can. Never miss a payment. After some time you might be able to pay it off a reduced bill or it may even be forgiven.

    Edit: Also, NTA as many people have said. Best of luck, friend.






  • Basic trouble shooting cause this is weird and I have no idea:

    1. If you disconnect the Ethernet, does it still tick?

    2. Does restarting the printer help?

    3. Can you turn the printers wi-fi off?

    My wildest guesses are it could be trying to print off a test page, receiving a signal to print but no info, or maybe it’s switching between checking WiFi and Ethernet.



  • Get help when you can, remember to fill your cup before others, and try to make peace with the fact that you will have very little control over their older years.

    I was a caretaker to my grandmother for a while and now am approaching a similar stage with my mother. This is pretty cynical, but at a certain point everything’s a downward slope. Sometimes gentle, sometimes steep, and punctuated by good days but the overall course doesn’t change. Accepting how little control I have and acknowledging the downward slope has helped in some ways. It’s an absolutely brutal journey, but it’s like a rip current. You can fight and swim against it or you can swim parallel to shore. You might end up further out in the end but you’ll at least have the energy to make it back.