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Cake day: July 3rd, 2023

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  • Sometimes cultures have really toxic ideas on them. Probably all cultures have something. Like in the US there’s a lot of “the only emotion men are allowed is anger”, for example.

    How do you fix that? Is there a general solution? Because sometimes it’s like enforced by the very people it’s harming.

    But it’s all social. Made up. It’s not like physics. We can’t all decide that acceleration due to gravity on earth is now a nice round 10 m/s². But we could just decide working long hours is bullshit.














  • but someone not caring about my complaints and continuing to do what they enjoy is their right, and they aren’t a bad person for not caring that it annoys me.

    I think we’re going to have to agree to disagree. To use your example, if my neighbor was smoking in a place that it was stinking up my bedroom, and I asked them to stop doing it there, and they were like “nah I like it here” I’d consider them a huge asshole. Just do it over there not by my bedroom or something.

    One confounding issue here is that fireworks affect a pretty big area. The whole neighborhood is probably going to hear them.

    I don’t know anything about you so this might not land, but I wonder if there’s an urban rural divide on this. Folks that live in a more dense area might on average be more considerate of their neighbors. I’ve known people who live out in the woods that are big on “I do what I want on my property!” Though plenty of people everywhere are assholes, so who knows.