didn’t we all grow up needing to be secretive? is it because of the adage of how ‘everyone thinks women are hot’ so like even straight women would get turned on more by their own moaning?

like as a guy i don’t even…have the impulse to involve my voice in it at all

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    The classic answer is training. Guys tend to jack it a lot from a young age and train themselves to be quiet. Girls tend to masturbate less so less practise there.

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      I don’t think it’s purely that, because I don’t moan when I masturbate, but I do with a partner. I think it’s just about communicating what is good to your partner. I don’t have to communicate what spot is good to myself. I breathe heavier, but I don’t moan or say “right there” to myself.

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      Girls masturbate plenty and often start as children. I don’t think that’s what it comes down to.

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      Girls tend to masturbate less

      Is this real? I don’t see how it could possibly be real.

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        I for one have maybe done so 5 times in my 40 years of life and do not feel the urge to do so. Only times I did I was drunk or high and I don’t do that stuff. I rather just relax.

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          @Ataraxia there’s so much diversity in the world!

          I was probably doing it like 10x a day when I was a teen. Went to an all girls boarding school and it was just well known that most people there did it.

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        Start a bit later on average and rub one out a bit less than guys. There’s a fair chunk of the female population that have never masturbated. Shocking I know! Not as socially acceptable perhaps? 🤷

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          This doesn’t tally at all with my experience.

          I wonder if it varies from culture to culture and how much of it is influenced by self-reporting.

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          Are there actual statistics about this, or are you just saying that bc it’s what you believe?

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          No they are just not as horny at that age. I read that woman are the horniest in their 30s and guys in their 20s, and it kind of matches my own experience.

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      Don’t downvote me. I assure you I have very little impact on the female masturbation stats one way or the other